Make Sure You’re Ready for a Better Relationship
“Reversing an unwanted estrangement is, in a very particular way, exactly like swimming the English Channel.”
So begins this perspective-shifting episode in which Tina urges parents to prepare for reconnection the way swimmers prepare for a long-distance swim.
Reaching out to your child, whether with an apology, a request for a talk, or an offer to go to therapy together, is like jumping into the Channel and heading for France. How prepared are you for that crossing?
Wanting to be in France isn’t enough fuel to make it there. There are many steps and stages to the project of swimming the Channel. Especially if you’ve never swum in open water, or swum for more than 20 miles at once. The key, according to Tina, is preparation.
Preparing to reconnect takes different forms for different individuals, and estranged adult children have their own preparation to do. On the parents’ side, it may include training for changes you’re thinking of making. And that often requires patience and sustained practice (in other relationships or with yourself).
Get inspired to make good use of the time imposed by your adult child’s estrangement. Use the player below to listen now, or bookmark this page in your browser.
For much more information on resolving parent-adult child estrangement, read Tina’s book, Reconnecting With Your Estranged Adult Child.
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EPISODE LINKS:
Reconnection Club Podcast Ep. 97: Road Map to Reconnection, Part 1
Reconnection Club Podcast Ep. 98: Road Map to Reconnection, Part 2
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