Episode 198: Validation (Or Lack Thereof)

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Many estranged adult children report feeling invalidated in their interactions with their parents. These feelings — of being dismissed, misunderstood, or emotionally unseen — often contribute to ongoing disconnection.

But what exactly does invalidation sound like in everyday conversation? And how can parents begin to recognize these pitfalls, to make sure they’re being as supportive as they want to be?

In this compassionate and informative episode (use the player below to listen now), host Tina Gilbertson begins a vital exploration of validation — what it means, why it matters, and how it often plays a pivotal role in the dynamics between parents and adult children.

The first of a four-part series, this episode focuses on three common types of invalidating responses. Tina breaks down each type with clarity and care, offering real-life examples to help listeners recognize them in context.

The next three episodes in this series explore validation in greater depth, offering tools and insights to support parents on their journey through estrangement with empathy and clarity. Here are Parts 2, 3 and 4:

199. Validation: What, Why, How and When

200. Validation and You, The Estranged Parent

201. Validation FAQs

For much more on relationships between parents and adult children, including what goes wrong and how parents can respond effectively, read Tina’s book, Reconnecting With Your Estranged Adult Child.

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EPISODE LINKS:

How to Validate Someone

Validation and Estrangement

Words of Validation for Parents of No-Contact Adult Children

RC Validation Workshop (Reconnection Club member login required)

 

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