Episode 40: When an Adult Child Seems Emotionally Immature

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Not every adult child who’s estranged from parents is emotionally immature. But in some cases, emotional immaturity is something that parents who wish to reconcile have to deal with.

What is emotional immaturity, and what can you do about it?

In this episode, Tina urges you to view emotional immaturity not as a character flaw, but as a problem of development.

She offers some reasons why emotional development might stop in children. But also provides hope that development can resume later in life if the right conditions are met.

Four tactics are offered to help you approach the problem of emotional immaturity in an estranged adult child, to maximize the possibility of successful reconciliation:

1. Take responsibility for what you might be contributing
2. Create emotional safety in all interactions
3. Model forgiveness and defenselessness
4. Use feeling words to express yourself, and take guesses as to what your child is feeling.

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