Episode 62: Personality Disorders and Estrangement

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Does your estranged adult child have a personality disorder (PD)?

If so, how much does it matter?

Armchair diagnoses of PDs such as Borderline PD or Narcissistic PD are often flung back and forth between estranged adult children and rejected parents, to explain the problems between them.

Often, it may simply be that parent and adult child don’t see eye to eye.

But some PDs are real.

What do you do if the person estranged from you is suffering from a genuine, properly diagnosed PD?

The first thing to do, according to Tina in this episode, is to get clear on what you really want. If your child has a PD like Borderline that makes him so difficult to deal with, how close do you want to be?

Assuming she were willing, how much time would you want to spend around an adult daughter with full-blown Narcissistic PD?

In this episode, Tina gives a brief sketch of what PDs are, what they’re not, and some implications for estrangement and reconciliation.

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For practical tips on healing estrangement from an estranged adult child, see Tina’s book, Reconnecting With Your Estranged Adult Child.



Listen to therapist Esther Perel work with a couple whose adult daughter has several mental health diagnoses, and isn’t thriving:

You Need to Help Her

(Many thanks to the Reconnection Club member who brought this to our attention.)

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