Your adult child, who’s always been such an empathetic soul, has now ruthlessly cut you off.
How can such an empathetic person have no empathy for the parents who raised him? Doesn’t he care that he’s hurting you?
It seems like an awful mystery. What’s going on? Has your child changed that much?
The problem of empathy is that it can’t coexist with estrangement. To be empathetic, you have to stop being estranged.
But if contact is painful for you, then it’s a win-lose situation. Either the parent “wins” because the child is back in contact, or the child “wins” the prize of the distance she desired.
In either case, someone loses.
Tina explains this painful dilemma in this interesting episode. Use the player below to listen now.
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For practical tips on healing estrangement from an estranged adult child, see Tina’s book, Reconnecting With Your Estranged Adult Child.