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Setting Boundaries with Estranged Adult Children

Tina Gilbertson

Setting Boundaries with Estranged Adult Children Many parents of estranged adult children cringe when they hear the word “boundaries.”  It’s understandable. The last time they heard that word was when their adult child accused them of boundary violations… on their …

New Lesson Added to Healthy Boundaries course

Tina Gilbertson

The Reconnection Club is pleased to announce the newest addition to our evolving course on Healthy Boundaries. The lessons for this course are being produced over time from presentations recorded live for Reconnection Club members. The latest presentation was all …
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Preparing for Mothers Day and Fathers Day

Tina Gilbertson

Preparing for Mothers Day and Fathers Day 9 Tips for Parents of Estranged Adult Children In the U.S., May and June bring anxious reminders of estrangement for many parents in the form of Mothers Day and Fathers Day, respectively. If …
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The Reconnection Club Turns 5

Tina Gilbertson

Five years ago today, on March 1st, 2019, the Reconnection Club opened its doors to parents suffering from unwanted estrangement by adult children. Our vision was an online school to help parents understand and address causes of estrangement, so families …
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Another Reason NOT to Send Gifts to an Estranged Adult Child

Tina Gilbertson

When you send your estranged adult child a gift, it might not be obvious that this could put her or him in a difficult position… If your child wants to be polite, they have to thank you for the gift. …

Coming Fall ’23: Moving Beyond Family Struggles

Tina Gilbertson

Moving Beyond Family Struggles 2023 Some parents of estranged adult children (especially Reconnection Club members) want to keep learning and being inspired to grow, even during an unwanted estrangement. If that’s you, then my friend and colleague Yasmin Kerkez of …
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New Podcast Interview on Parent-Adult Child Estrangement

Tina Gilbertson

I recently had the pleasure of speaking with Mary Foley on her podcast, Live Like Your Nail Color. Our interview was part of Mary’s series, “Women’s Essential Relationships.” The episodes aren’t numbered but you can find both parts of our …

New research on estrangement between parents and adult children

Tina Gilbertson

If you’ve ever wondered what the research says about parent-adult child estrangement, you’ll be interested to learn about a study published recently in the Journal of Marriage and Family. This U.S.-based study is important for unwillingly estranged parents because of …

Breathing Matters

Tina Gilbertson

Breathing is part of the language of coping with difficult circumstances. We tell ourselves, and each other, “Remember to breathe.” (Don’t hold your breath.) “Breathe though it.” (Tolerate the pain.) “Breathe into it.” (What we resist, persists.) “Just breathe.” (Be …

Estrangement and Broken-Heart Syndrome

Tina Gilbertson

Do you prefer listening to reading? This topic is also the subject of Episode 145 of The Reconnection Club Podcast.  *   *   * As if being estranged from your adult child(ren) weren’t bad enough, the stress of the emotional pain …

Emotions of Estrangement

Tina Gilbertson

Do you prefer listening to reading? There’s an episode of the Reconnection Club Podcast on this same topic. Listen now: Ep 139: Emotions of Estrangement  *   *   * When you first realize you’ve become estranged from your adult child(ren), you …

Learning Pathways are here!

Tina Gilbertson

We’re excited to announce the first of three planned Learning Pathways to be released in 2023 for Reconnection Club members. Learning Pathways are recommended resource packages for specific circumstances. They provide a list of suggested materials to digest in sequence, …
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January Blues? Leave the Goal-Setting Till Later

Tina Gilbertson

At the beginning of every new year, there’s a load of messages out there about making a new start. But not everyone has the energy to do that in January. For parents of estranged adult children, the past few months …

Reconnect With Good Feelings During Estrangement

Tina Gilbertson

How would you feel if your estranged adult child came back into your life today, with a kind and open heart? What if you could hold a beloved grandchild, or take part in a family gathering, surrounded by smiles? You …

Self-Care for Parents of Estranged Adult Children

Tina Gilbertson

Do you prefer listening to reading? We some audio for you, based on this article. Check out Reconnection Club Podcast #132: Self-Care for Parents of Estranged Adult Children.  *   *   * For parents of estranged adult children, autumn is a …
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