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Reconnect With Good Feelings During Estrangement

Tina Gilbertson

How would you feel if your estranged adult child came back into your life today, with a kind and open heart? What if you could hold a beloved grandchild, or take part in a family gathering, surrounded by smiles? You …

Self-Care for Parents of Estranged Adult Children

Tina Gilbertson

Do you prefer listening to reading? We some audio for you, based on this article. Check out Reconnection Club Podcast #132: Self-Care for Parents of Estranged Adult Children.  *   *   * For parents of estranged adult children, autumn is a …

7 Ways to Waste Your Time When Your Adult Child Is Estranged

Tina Gilbertson

Do you prefer listening to reading? For an audio treatment of this article, listen to Reconnection Club Podcast Episode 129: 7 Ways Parents Waste Time During Estrangement.  *   *   * If your adult child is currently estranged, how you spend …

2022 MBFS Summit Interview with Tina Gilbertson

Tina Gilbertson

The Moving Beyond Family Struggles Summit, hosted by Family Support Resources (FSR), this year featured 26 experts in the field of family estrangement, communication, relationships and personal growth. The entire 2022 Moving Beyond Family Struggles Summit, including all videos and …

Bookmark These Summit Links for Each Day

Tina Gilbertson

Hey everyone, Yasmin Kerkez sent me the access links for each of the four days of the Moving Beyond Family Struggles Summit 2022, and invited me to share them with you. Two things: You must be registered (use the link …

Moving Beyond Family Struggles Summit 2022

Tina Gilbertson

If you’ve been around here a while, you might remember last year’s wonderful Moving Beyond Family Struggles Summit, conceived and hosted by Yasmin Kerkez of Family Support Resources. I was honored to be interviewed by Yasmin for that Summit, and …

Announcement: RC Podcast Schedule Change

Tina Gilbertson

Happy New Year! We have exciting plans to expand our library in 2022 by creating a variety of new resources for our members. That will necessarily mean spending more time on member-only content, and less time on the podcast. So… …

New Study Highlights Differences in Perceptions of Estrangement Cause

Tina Gilbertson

Inside the Reconnection Club, parents help each other try to understand the reasons for their adult children’s decision to create distance. The need for this kind of perspective-taking was highlighted by a study recently published in the journal Couple and …

Are You Overreacting?

Tina Gilbertson

Pain is a normal and expected reaction to the loss of important relationships. But for some parents rejected by adult children, ordinary pain is made worse by unhealed injuries from the past. (See also The Deep Pain of the Rejected …

Why “Teaching Someone a Lesson” Doesn’t Work

Tina Gilbertson

It’s so human to want to teach someone a lesson when they’re behaving badly. Maybe because of the fundamental attribution error (we attribute other people’s behavior to temperament, ours to circumstances), we tend to focus on correcting poor behavior in …
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The Readiness Factor

Tina Gilbertson

In every relationship, there’s always the possibility that one of you is ready to take a new step when the other is not. As a parent unwillingly estranged from one or more of your adult children, you can do everything …

How to Make the Best of a Bad Situation

Tina Gilbertson

Hey folks, I just wanted to let you know about my latest post over on You know as well as anyone what it’s like to live with a situation you don’t want. And while estrangement has special challenges that …

Handling Complaints from Your Estranged Adult Child

Tina Gilbertson

If you manage to open communication with your estranged adult child, it’s good to be prepared for the crucial task of receiving complaints. Unless you have a conscious plan for your response, the rift could easily widen. Because the way …

Feeling Insecure in Relationships

Tina Gilbertson

I don’t always share my relationship-themed posts with estranged parents. Often they’re just not relevant to this audience. But today’s post struck me as being maybe a little bit more interesting, at least to some parents. Several Reconnection Club …

Podcast Interview Re: Estrangement

Tina Gilbertson

I recently had the pleasure of speaking with Las Vegas-based therapist Lourdes Viado. Lourdes hosts a podcast called “Women in Depth,” and she invited me to do an interview about my book, Reconnecting With Your Estranged Adult Child. Lourdes is …