The Reconnection Club Turns 5

5 candles birthday cake

Five years ago today, on March 1st, 2019, the Reconnection Club opened its doors to parents suffering from unwanted estrangement by adult children. Our vision was an online school to help parents understand and address causes of estrangement, so families could come back together and be better than before. We had no idea what a …

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Coming Fall ’23: Moving Beyond Family Struggles

Moving Beyond Family Struggles 2023 Some parents of estranged adult children (especially Reconnection Club members) want to keep learning and being inspired to grow, even during an unwanted estrangement. If that’s you, then my friend and colleague Yasmin Kerkez of Family Support Resources has something special to offer you this fall. Yasmin’s 2023 Moving Beyond …

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New Podcast Interview on Parent-Adult Child Estrangement

Click to listen to Part 1 of this interview

I recently had the pleasure of speaking with Mary Foley on her podcast, Live Like Your Nail Color. Our interview was part of Mary’s series, “Women’s Essential Relationships.” The episodes aren’t numbered but you can find both parts of our discussion at these links: Part 1 (May 12, 2023) Part 2 (May 19, 2023) (Be …

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Breathing Matters

Breathing is part of the language of coping with difficult circumstances. We tell ourselves, and each other, “Remember to breathe.” (Don’t hold your breath.) “Breathe though it.” (Tolerate the pain.) “Breathe into it.” (What we resist, persists.) “Just breathe.” (Be here now.) Those are not platitudes. They remind us of the useful tool we always …

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Emotions of Estrangement

Do you prefer listening to reading? There’s an episode of the Reconnection Club Podcast on this same topic. Listen now: Ep 139: Emotions of Estrangement  *   *   * When you first realize you’ve become estranged from your adult child(ren), you may be shocked. Also confused, afraid, and maybe a little bit panicked. Some parents who’ve …

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Learning Pathways are here!

We’re excited to announce the first of three planned Learning Pathways to be released in 2023 for Reconnection Club members. Learning Pathways are recommended resource packages for specific circumstances. They provide a list of suggested materials to digest in sequence, along with a workbook for note-taking and review. The Green learning pathway is for parents …

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2022 MBFS Summit Interview with Tina Gilbertson

The Moving Beyond Family Struggles Summit, hosted by Family Support Resources (FSR), this year featured 26 experts in the field of family estrangement, communication, relationships and personal growth. The entire 2022 Moving Beyond Family Struggles Summit, including all videos and other materials, is available for purchase through FSR.  However, FSR has generously provided the Reconnection …

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Bookmark These Summit Links for Each Day

Hey everyone, Yasmin Kerkez sent me the access links for each of the four days of the Moving Beyond Family Struggles Summit 2022, and invited me to share them with you. Two things: You must be registered (use the link above or click the pic), and Each day opens at 9am US Pacific Time / …

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Moving Beyond Family Struggles Summit 2022

If you’ve been around here a while, you might remember last year’s wonderful Moving Beyond Family Struggles Summit, conceived and hosted by Yasmin Kerkez of Family Support Resources. I was honored to be interviewed by Yasmin for that Summit, and I have the honor and pleasure again this year to be part of Day 2 …

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Announcement: RC Podcast Schedule Change

Happy New Year! We have exciting plans to expand our library in 2022 by creating a variety of new resources for our members. That will necessarily mean spending more time on member-only content, and less time on the podcast. So… Starting this month, new episodes of The Reconnection Club Podcast will be released every other …

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Are You Overreacting?

Pain is a normal and expected reaction to the loss of important relationships. But for some parents rejected by adult children, ordinary pain is made worse by unhealed injuries from the past. (See also The Deep Pain of the Rejected Parent) If you’ve been hurt deeply or often in your life, even a healthy response …

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Why “Teaching Someone a Lesson” Doesn’t Work

It’s so human to want to teach someone a lesson when they’re behaving badly. Maybe because of the fundamental attribution error (we attribute other people’s behavior to temperament, ours to circumstances), we tend to focus on correcting poor behavior in other people. We aren’t quite as ardent when it comes to scrutinizing ourselves. I think …

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