Episode 73: The Mother-Daughter Relationship

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Mothers and daughters have the potential for a very close, lifelong relationship. But not every mother-daughter pair enjoys a harmonious, supportive bond. You may have seen your friends get together with their grown daughters, and watched them with envy. Your daughter, in contrast, has become estranged. How did this happen, and why? If the mother-daughter …

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Episode 71: Three Ways Rejected Parents Give Away Their Power

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It’s common for rejected parents who are unwillingly estranged from an adult child to feel utterly powerless. And that’s a horrible feeling in the face of a breach in an important relationship. But there are three specific assumptions parents make that leave them truly powerless. These insidious assumptions are: Your child’s estrangement is entirely about …

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Episode 69: It’s OK to Enjoy Yourself During Estrangement

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It’s the festive season – always a complicated time for people experiencing estrangement from family. The holidays are full of friendship, gift-giving, celebrating and creating memories. But for parents rejected by one or more of their adult children, it can feel wrong to participate. Having a good time feels … unseemly. How can parents enjoy …

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Episode 64: Estrangement and Healthy Giving

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Parents of estranged adult children often end up sending gifts into a void. Not just at holidays, but all year long. Their giving has poor boundaries, and doesn’t necessarily respect the wishes of their child — who in many cases has asked for no contact. If you’ve listened to Episode 10, you’re already familiar with …

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Episode 63: What You Resist Persists

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When you go in for a vaccination, the nurse might tell you to relax just before he gives you the needle. Obviously, relaxing is not natural in a situation like this. And yet resisting the needle creates tension, and may even make the shot more painful. Resistance is not only futile, it often creates more …

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Episode 62: Personality Disorders and Estrangement

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Does your estranged adult child have a personality disorder (PD)? If so, how much does it matter? Armchair diagnoses of PDs such as Borderline PD or Narcissistic PD are often flung back and forth between estranged adult children and rejected parents, to explain the problems between them. Often, it may simply be that parent and …

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Episode 59: How to Survive Birthdays During Estrangement (Yours and Theirs)

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Will your estranged child send you birthday wishes this year? Should you celebrate your child’s birthday even though she’s not currently speaking to you? How can you survive not only your own birthday without them, but theirs? Estrangement doesn’t respect birthdays. In many or perhaps most cases, you’ll be disappointed if you expect your child …

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Episode 58: How Long Does Estrangement Typically Last?

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It’s the question on the mind of every rejected parent: How long will this estrangement last? Since nobody knows the answer to that, parents seek the next best thing: How long does estrangement last in general? That is, what is the “average” or “typical” length of estrangement between parents and adult children? Unfortunately, we’re a …

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