Newsletter Archive

This is the archive of featured newsletter articles, with the newest at the top.

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Sleepy dog
Body-mind connection

Estrangement and Broken-Heart Syndrome

As if being estranged from your adult child(ren) weren’t bad enough, the stress of the emotional pain it causes could actually affect your heart. Known by various names, including Takotsubo Syndrome and stress cardiomypathy, Broken-Heart Syndrome is brought on mainly by emotional or physical stressors. Extreme emotions, such as those that may accompany an unwanted

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Coping

Emotions of Estrangement

Do you prefer listening to reading? There’s an episode of the Reconnection Club Podcast on this same topic. Listen now: Ep 139: Emotions of Estrangement  *   *   * When you first realize you’ve become estranged from your adult child(ren), you may be shocked. Also confused, afraid, and maybe a little bit panicked. Some parents who’ve

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Sleepy dog
Self-care

January Blues? Leave the Goal-Setting Till Later

At the beginning of every new year, there’s a load of messages out there about making a new start. But not everyone has the energy to do that in January. For parents of estranged adult children, the past few months have likely been stressful. Worrying about what to do about the holidays, and whether and

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Body-mind connection

Reconnect With Good Feelings During Estrangement

How would you feel if your estranged adult child came back into your life today, with a kind and open heart? What if you could hold a beloved grandchild, or take part in a family gathering, surrounded by smiles? You might immediately answer, “Well, that’s what I want, obviously.” But that wasn’t the question. The

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Body-mind connection

Self-Care for Parents of Estranged Adult Children

Do you prefer listening to reading? We some audio for you, based on this article. Check out Reconnection Club Podcast #132: Self-Care for Parents of Estranged Adult Children.  *   *   * Autumn is my favorite time of year. Maybe it’s my Scandinavian heritage, but I tend to wilt in the heat and spend most summers

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Basics

7 Ways to Waste Your Time When Your Adult Child Is Estranged

Do you prefer listening to reading? For an audio treatment of this article, listen to Reconnection Club Podcast Episode 129: 7 Ways Parents Waste Time During Estrangement.  *   *   * If your adult child is currently estranged, how you spend your time and attention right now matters. In fact, how you spend your time today,

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Basics

Personal Healing: More Than a Detour for Rejected Parents

When it comes to repairing your relationship with your estranged adult child(ren), as a parent it’s important to understand one thing: You are the bedrock, the foundation and the base for that relationship. If an earthquake left your house hanging halfway off a cliff, what would you do first — shore it up from below,

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Contact

The Escalation Trap

Do you prefer listening to reading? Listen to an audio treatment of this article in the form of RC Podcast Episode 123: The Escalation Trap.  *   *   * If your estranged adult child or children requested no contact, you’ll probably be pleasantly surprised if they suddenly contact you. And if you’re like other parents you

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Birthdays

Make a Detailed Plan to Get Through Special Days

I’ve suggested elsewhere that every estranged parent should have a detailed plan on their special day, whether it be Mothers or Fathers Day, your birthday, the holidays, or any day when you wonder if an estranged adult child will reach out. With a special day coming up, I’ve heard parents say things like, “I’m having

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